Why Sex Isn’t Bad (Wait, What?)

So much of our public stance is made up of reactions. Instead of reviewing the facts in light of our worldview, we look at a group we don’t agree with and take the opposite position. We don’t seem to be the slightest bit hindered from doing this even if we take up positions that we don’t actually agree with.

This is a danger for Christians in particular because it matters what position we take. It reflects on more than just our own opinion when we say that God wants us to do something or that something is right or wrong.

For years as secular culture has gotten more “free” with sex and what’s acceptable and what’s shown on television, the church has answered by doing the opposite. We have shouted about the dangers of sex and the problems of immorality and left the message there.

The problem with this approach is that there is little clear Biblical teaching about God’s actual design for sex. Not what He says is wrong- there’s plenty about that- but what He says is right.

Because sex in God’s context is right. And holy. And beautiful. And we are very afraid of saying that for fear of people hearing that all sex is fine. No boundaries.

But if we won’t say it- if we can’t have respectful, appropriate conversations about sex- then where will Christians go to learn about sex? Cosmo? Television shows? There are obvious problems with that approach since that information is not presented from a Biblical worldview.

The questions were what finally convinced me to do the sex series on the podcast. What do you do when people have simple questions that they can’t get answered from a Christian viewpoint? I think you should answer them. So we did. And I was shocked by the people I knew in real life who told me that they hadn’t realized they could have a sacred conversation about sex. You know, because the Bible doesn’t talk about sex or anything. (That was my sarcasm font in case you were wondering.)

Today I’m delighted to present you with a resource. The same Phylicia who helped convinced me to do the sex series on the podcast (Episodes 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5) has written an ebook about the sex talk you never had.  I’ve read the ebook and it’s packed with valuable information about God’s design for sex and why fantasy and lust matter. (Also, shockingly, why virginity isn’t the main goal.)

Go pick up your own copy. This isn’t an affiliate link, just something I believe would greatly benefit this generation of Christian women.